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3 ways to ground in gratitude as an antidote to overwhelm

We can’t be stressed and calm at the same time. Biologically, we’re just not wired for it. So, if you’re looking for something to bring into your life that will keep you out from overwhelm AND more resilient to stress try grounding in gratitude.

It’s no wonder that we feel stressed from overwhelm in today’s world. Things are coming at us all-the-time. We are bombarded with information daily and whether we realize it or not, we’re filtering it all. Our subconscious and auto-pilot mode is hard at work trying to make sense of everything we do throughout our days, but if we’re not mindful of our actions, we can slip into overdrive by default. That’s because actions without intentions, lead to a drain on our lives.

The good news is, you can do something about it immediately by taking back the driver’s seat and leading from the intent of finding and grounding in gratitude.

Here’s the thing about gratitude that’s important to know. Gratitude is a habit of the heart, but it won’t happen on default. You need to make it an intention for it to become a habit. Create the space and make it a priority. I’ll give you a few ways to do that shortly, but first, let’s talk about why it should be on a priority list.   

Grounding in gratitude is a conduit to joy and who doesn’t want more joy in their lives? When we experience the feeling of joy, we are eliciting feel good hormones that flood our body with endorphins, thereby shifting and broadening how we see the world. This automatically takes us out from overwhelm and stress and into a state that’s calm in the present moment. 

The truth is, we can get so busy worried about the future or maybe even stuck in the past, that we miss the here and now. And really, all we ever have is the present moment – here and now. Learning to enjoy this experience is a major key to happiness.

Here’s 3 ways to practice grounding with gratitude:

1. Take what you’re grateful for out from your head and give it a voice. Consider talking about it at the dinner table and saying what you’re grateful for. You can create a meaningful habit for dinner table conversation and guests and it’s great for families.

2. Make it visible through writing. Gratitude journaling is a perfect way to end the day for a restful night’s sleep. Or you can begin your day and help set the tone with intentions of gratitude. You’re more likely to stay in a good space and increase your resilience to stress when you start off from a good place. 

3. Take a walking meditation to think about all the things you’re grateful for. It might be as simple as appreciating all the sights you take in on your walk.

Whatever you do to fit in a practice of gratitude, just remember to make it an intention and do it.

Gratitude is a direct route for staying out from overwhelm. It supports us in remembering what truly matters in life. And it’s a gift that’s free and available to access at any time. Get grounded.

Arlene Figueroa is an NLP Master Practitioner and Certified Life Coach with the iNLP Center. Her online coaching practice is dedicated to helping women balance the needs of family with their own.Arlene is the mother of three who went from chronic overwhelm into a life that’s vibrant by equipping herself with tools for everyday living. When she works with women, they learn quickly that even making small adjustments in how they treat themselves can make a HUGE difference in how they show up in life. Arlene’s passionate about supporting women to nourish the woman within. Read about her coaching program for Overwhelmed Moms.

5 Big Reasons Talking to Someone about your Problems Helps (Always)

Got a problem? Talk to someone. It helps – always. Maybe because so many of us were raised by families who didn’t love us. Or maybe because it just works!

Unless you’re confessing a crime you didn’t commit to the police. Then, it might backfire. Or if you talking to someone about a problem and that person spits it back in your face. But you already know who these people are, right?

But under normal circumstances, conversation heals when you talk to someone trustworthy.

Why? How?

Why talking to someone about your problems works so well.

1. You’ll get a different perspective, even if that new perspective comes as a realization from within yourself. Talking about your problems sets your mind in motion.

2. You’ll stop feeling alone. Part of the emotional burden that comes with problems is that you feel isolated and alone in them. When you talk to someone, you are officially no longer alone. A burden shared. You’ll feel more whole, even though being whole is not the best goal🙂

3. If you talk to someone that doesn’t judge, you might stop judging yourself. You’ll learn something – that it is possible to be seen as a decent human being and still have this problem. And when you stop judging yourself, most of the burden could lift. No additional effort required!

4. When you talk to someone about your problems, you release pent-up feelings that have been pinging around in your mind and body, causing stress and inner chaos. Get them out.

5. It’s humbling. When you admit a personal struggle, you’re aligning with the fact that you’re not perfect. And if there is one thing you should stop trying to be, it’s perfect! Winners in life are character-oriented people, not perfect people.

What are you waiting for?

You’ve got problems. Start talking.